5 reasons he'll thank you for ordering menvault (even if he won't say it out loud)

Nancy Cooper
By Nancy Cooper i
Caregiver and wife
Updated 2 days ago | 1 min read
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About Nancy

Nancy is a wife and caregiver who has walked every step of her husband's prostate cancer recovery beside him. She writes for Prime Men's Health and AARP to give other wives and caregivers honest, practical information on helping men manage their leaks. She doesn't just write about the journey. She's living it. Off the page, she's a passionate home cook, an avid gardener, and a proud grandmother.

Here's the thing nobody tells you after his prostate surgery... you basically lose your hubby too. Not all at once. Little by little. The golf trip becomes "maybe next time." The dinner out becomes "you go, I'm tired." Pretty soon you're just watching the man you married disappear in slow motion and you don't know what to do about it.

I spent two years buying him every pad, guard, and pull-up on the shelf. NONE of them worked. Then I found Menvault. And I got my husband back.
 

I'm not the only one. A couple of wives in my caregiver group switched their husbands over too. (Huge thanks to Sarah and Monica for letting me share their photos here.)

Here are the 5 reasons it finally worked when nothing else did:

1. nobody can tell he's wearing it. not even him.

1. nobody can tell he's wearing it. not even him.

No bulges. No crinkling. Nothing showing through his pants. The first day I gave him a pair, he put them on in the morning and forgot he had them on by lunch. His golf buddies? No idea. Me doing his laundry? Nothing. No smell, no giveaway, nothing.

This was the thing. Because if he hated how they felt, he wouldn't wear them and we'd be back to square one.

2. they're actually built for men's bodies

2. they're actually built for men's bodies

This was the part that made me order them. Every other product he tried wasn't really made for how men leak. Men don't just leak straight down (actually made sense). It goes forward, back, down the inner thighs. And every pad and pull-up he was using? Not designed for that. At all.
 

Menvault actually protects all those spots. Front. Back. Inner legs. It was the first thing I ordered where the design actually matched the problem.

3. one pair. all day. that's it.

3. one pair. all day. that's it.

OK this part still gets me. He used to change 3 or 4 times a day. THREE OR FOUR. The constant hiding of pads, the extras in the glove compartment, the paranoia. Now? One pair in the morning, done until bed.

I actually poured a whole can of soda into a pair to see if they'd really hold. Didn't leak a drop. Whatever they built into these things (nine layers, some bamboo, I don't know) it works.

4. washable. reusable. no more store runs.

4. washable. reusable. no more store runs.

I cannot tell you how much money we spent on disposables over the years. And the store runs. And the receipts I'd hide in the trash before he could see them (he felt guilty about the money, which made me feel worse). All of that... gone.
 

You just wash them like regular underwear. That's it. Some wives in the reviews said they saved $1,800+ over three years. Honestly? Sounds about right.

5. i got my husband back

5. i got my husband back

This is the one that matters.
 

Three weeks after he started wearing them, he said yes to a weekend away with friends he'd been declining for two years. A month later we booked Rome. ROME. The trip I thought we'd given up on. He wasn't scanning for bathrooms, he wasn't paranoid, he was just... HIM again.
 

I didn't order boxer briefs. I ordered the man I married back. I'd pay ten times the price if I had to.

How Do You Know If These Will Work For Your Husband?

Quick check first. If he's wearing full diapers, not pads, these probably aren't right for him. Menvault is built for light to moderate leaks, not severe. Better to know now than after you order.
 

But if he's still on pads or guards, keep reading.
 

Remember the can of soda I poured into a pair? That's about 4 heavy pads worth of absorbency. My husband was going through 4 TENA Level 3s a day before I switched him, and one pair of 

Menvault gets him through the whole day now.
 

If he leaks more than that but isn't in diapers yet, these still work. He just changes into a fresh pair mid-day.

Where To Buy Menvault?

Only on their official website. I checked Amazon out of habit (who doesn't) and there are some cheap knockoffs, but the real ones aren't sold there. The official site has a 30-day money-back guarantee, so if these don't work for him, you send them back.
 

I ordered 4 pairs the first time. He wears one each day, I toss them in the wash, and there's always a clean pair ready. Honestly? I wish I'd bought more the first time.

A Discount For Wives Reading This

If you've read this far, you're probably the same kind of wife I was. Tired of watching him struggle, sick of products that didn't work, willing to try one more thing if it meant getting him back.
 

Before I posted this, I reached out to David, one of the owners at Menvault. He actually dealt with leaks himself and is part of what they built the company around. I asked if he could offer something for the wives finding this page, and he agreed.

 

50% off the regular price for anyone reading this. Plus the 30-day money-back guarantee, so if he doesn't love them, you return them.
 

Click the button below and order him a pair.
 

He'll thank you. Maybe not out loud. But you'll see it.

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15 Comments
  1. Linda Simmons says:

    @Nancy Cooper THANK YOU for this review. My husband is about a year out from surgery and I swear I wanted to cry every time I emptied the bathroom trash… he was going through 3 Depends a day and the cost?? Don't even. I finally talked him into trying the Menvault boxer briefs about 3 months ago and it legit changed both of our lives. They handle his leaks. They look like normal underwear. And the BIG one. He feels like himself again. Standing up straighter, looking me in the eye, all of it. Saving us about $60 a month is honestly just a bonus at this point. Ladies, if you're going back and forth about ordering them for your husband, just do it. They're not magic but they're SO much better than watching him disappear into a pile of pads.

  2. Rebecca M. says:

    Really good review. My husband is 7 months out from RALP and still dealing with moderate stress incontinence (fun times over here). He was using Northshore Guards and hating life. I ordered him the Menvault boxer briefs around month 4 and I'm still kicking myself for waiting that long. He COACHES. On his feet 8 hours a day. These hold up no problem. What got him was how normal they feel. Like underwear, not a pad. My only regret is how long I dragged my feet. Hang in there ladies, I see you.

  3. Jennifer McConaghy says:

    Okay but are these ACTUALLY easy to wash?? I do all the laundry and the last "reusable" thing I bought for my husband was a whole nightmare. I refuse to go through that again lol.

    1. Nancy Cooper
      Nancy Cooper says:

      Hey @Jennifer! Honestly yes. Cold or warm wash with regular detergent, line dry, done. They're dry before the rest of the load. Been doing it for my husband for over a year and they still look great. Zero drama.

  4. Patricia D. says:

    My husband is 54, just 5 weeks out from his RALP. We're still in the heavy leaking phase and God it feels like it'll never end (urologist says month 3 should be way better but that's a lifetime from here). I found this article at midnight doing my usual panic googling because he flat out refuses to wear diapers for a year and honestly?? I don't blame him one bit. Just ordered four pairs to start. Will report back. But I have to say. Reading all these comments kind of made me tear up. I didn't realize how many of us are quietly going through this for our husbands. Thank you ladies for being so open about it. I needed it tonight.

  5. Diane S. says:

    Bought these for my husband 6 months ago. You would NEVER know they're any different from his regular boxers. That's exactly what he needed. Game changer.

  6. Karen K. says:

    Nobody talks about this but how do they look under dress pants?? My husband was SO stressed about this before I ordered them (he wears a suit to work every day). Answer: you literally cannot tell. Totally flat. No lines. Nothing. His coworkers have no idea and that's all he wanted. Watching him leave for the office feeling like himself again did more for his head than anything else we've tried… and for mine too, not gonna lie.

  7. Susan R says:

    Two quick q's. Do these work overnight for my husband? And do they ACTUALLY hold moderate leaks or is that marketing talk?

    1. Nancy Cooper
      Nancy Cooper says:

      @Susan yep! My husband wears them at night too and we both actually sleep again which is huge lol. And honestly I like them WAY better than what he was using before. They handle moderate leaks really well in our experience. If your husband is dealing with really heavy incontinence though I'd look at actual Depend incontinence underwear instead.

  8. Michelle T. says:

    Quick one before I order. How's the sizing?? My husband is normally a 34 waist but he's right between sizes on literally every brand we've tried. I really don't want to mess this up.

    1. Nancy Cooper
      Nancy Cooper says:

      @Michelle good question! In my experience they run true to size, but if your husband is between I'd size up. You want them snug enough to stay put but not squeezing him. There's a size guide on the product page that's actually helpful (a rare thing these days lol). And they have a money back guarantee so even if you get it wrong you're not stuck with it.

  9. Barbara L says:

    How many pairs should I get him??

    1. Nancy Cooper
      Nancy Cooper says:

      @Barbara I started my husband with 4 pairs and that was plenty for the week if I was washing every couple days. Once we knew they worked I bumped it up so there's always clean ones in the drawer and I'm not scrambling. With the money back guarantee starting with 4 is basically no risk.

  10. Carol B. says:

    Gonna be honest. I was SO cynical about these. I was like, great, another company cashing in on sick men and their worried wives. But my husband was miserable with pads shifting around all day and I was desperate so I ordered them anyway. That was 4 months ago. Turns out I was wrong. Really wrong. They stay put, he says they're comfortable, and from the outside you'd never know. He's still doing PT, still slowly improving, but in the meantime these have given him back a chunk of his dignity. And honestly?? Mine too. Sorry I doubted you Menvault.

  11. Wendy P says:

    I kind of hate reading these posts because it feels like a sneak peek of what might be coming for us one day… but I also love them because at least I'll know what to do?? Ugh. Helpful AND terrifying. Thank you ladies!!

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